Friendships are a strange thing. We go through our lives meeting different people – whether that’s at school, university or at work – and we decide which humans we wanna hang out with.
But what happens when you slowly drift away from those you used to be close to?
There are many different friends in my life: the everyday friends, the childhood friends and of course, my best friend, who’s always on standby for therapy sessions when it feels like our lives are falling apart.
But friends who would have once been categorised into one of those ‘friend sections’ are no longer there and that’s completely fine. We all grow and change and sometimes you find that you no longer have anything in common with the people that you used to be close with.
It is sad, and a friend break-up can sometimes be more emotionally draining than a romantic one, but the best thing about outgrowing friendships is that you have more time to invest in new ones that will probably benefit you more than the old ones and that’s not being selfish, it’s just life.
It’s time to say bye
Of course, it’s perfectly normal to outgrow friendships, but it’s also important to recognise the friendships that you’re not gaining anything from. Are you always making the effort and not receiving anything in return? Are you always there for their problems, but they don’t care about yours? It’s time to say bye.
I think the older you get, the more you realise the friends who are here to stay and those who are just ‘temporary’, which makes it 100% easier to accept when they slowly drift out of your life. This doesn’t mean that you can’t give them a like on their Instagram or comment on how nice they look in their new profile pic every now and then, but the friendship has expired, and that is completely okay.
Let me know you’re outgrowing friendships stories in the comments!